Dissidence: How to live in a world with no good answers

July 18, 2020 0

Dissidence is Not Comfortable Being in a place of conflict with competing sides is not a comfortable place to be. We’ve been taught to problem solve, resolve conflict and mediate compromise. In other words we’re taught to return to a place of equilibrium as soon as possible. In our need for the strain to lift, … Read more

Drops of Time in the Bucket

June 25, 2020 0

I’m trying to teach them budgeting, these two teenagers of mine. When they were younger we started with the very basic Give, Spend, Save system with three envelopes from Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace, Jr. set. But through the chaos of the last two years we’ve moved away from carefully dividing their “commission” up properly in … Read more

What I Heard in The Great Pause

June 18, 2020 0

One of my own life’s chronic themes is living at a pace that dances on the line between impressive effectiveness and self-sabotaging burnout. So The Great Pause of 2020 was both terrifying and enchanting for me. Beside the initial fear and awe, and the weight of the unknown, there were eventually waves of emotions and … Read more

Wishin’ and Hopin’

October 16, 2019 2

Seeing my own life through the eyes of my adopted children has made many moments of surprise over the years. Nowhere is this more true than in the area of language. Coming to us at 8 & 10 years old, these last four years have been full of working out the nuances of English in … Read more

Becoming Enough

April 6, 2017 8

She told me that the psychological panic a 2 year old has over having to use the “wrong” sippy cup is equal to the panic I would feel if I couldn’t pay the mortgage. The scope of the problem within the capacity of our individual worlds is proportionately the same, though a clear-headed intellectual comparison … Read more

Plowing that Field, Cleansing that Spring

May 29, 2016 2

8 Months? Wow. Today marks 8 months since we walked out of the Children’s Shelter of Cebu with two weeping little girls, full of a thousand emotions, and the two of us, wide eyed in wonder at the journey we were embarking on. And for more than 8 months, I have been silent on this … Read more

Leaving as Two but Returning as Four!

September 9, 2015 0

It’s go time! The adoption visas for our girls have come through and we are so pleased to be heading to the Philippines VERY soon to bring them home. With great joy and a bit of nervousness we are finalizing plans, travel arrangements, budgets, gifts, donations and packing up clothes. Thank you for being a … Read more

Getting There and Back Again: Adoption Lists

June 7, 2015 0

I’ve only recently become a video chat kinda girl. There is something about attempting to act naturally while talking to my computer and seeing myself at the same time in the smaller window that triggers my latent Junior High self conscious insecurities. And where are you supposed to look anyway? If I look at the camera … Read more

Love makes a family – An Adoption Update

February 21, 2015 0

It was the day before Valentine’s Day Text from my man, “Call the Adoption Agency. They left a voicemail and said they have a Valentine’s Day gift for us.” My heart skips a beat and I quickly dial our fabulous social worker, the one with a heart of gold and an ease about her that’s … Read more

What I Saw Under Holiday Lights

December 28, 2014 0

Here are the thoughts from my journal which simmered in my heart during this Advent season, in all the coming, the going, the hearing and the seeing. This season has been thick with the seeing of things in others that I wish I could fix for them, alongside the things I celebrate. And in honest … Read more